One of my main goals is to ensure that Talbott is a safe place where all students can feel welcome. In doing so, I have recently taught our students about bullying, “mean moments”, conflicts, and conflict resolution. Our students here all agree that at Talbott we do not have a bullying issue, but instead conflicts that need to be resolved. The following is a visual that all classrooms have posted and students can refer to as a guide to define bullying behavior. Bullying is intentional aggressive behavior that is repeated over time.
In Kindergarten through second grade our students have learned about “mean moments”, misunderstandings, or conflicts. They have learned that the first two steps in conflict resolution is to STOP, get yourself calm and then to TALK. When you TALK you share your feelings and how you have been hurt and how together the problem can be resolved.
In our third through fifth grade classes our students have learned the six core reasons for conflicts. When we identify the source of the conflict we can identify the next steps in solving the conflict. Below is a visual of the six core conflicts we discussed.
Students have learned four main steps to take when resolving conflict. The first is to STOP, which involves getting yourself calm. The second step is to THINK: think about the source of the problem, how you feel, and how the other person may feel. The third step is to TALK. When you TALK you share your feelings and how you have been hurt and how together the problem can be resolved. The final step is to SOLVE. During this step you work on a solution, repair harm that has been done, or ask for help from an adult.
I encourage you to ask your children about the topics above and if at any time they need help resolving a conflict I am happy to help. My ultimate goal is for students to learn the tools necessary to resolve conflicts in life and to build positive relationships.